We all know the women. The ones who walk into a room and garner attention immediately. They’re not necessarily the smartest, the thinnest, the curviest or the tallest, but… there’s just something about them and their presence.
They’re not arrogant. They may not necessarily even be talkative. But, people gravitate to them. They have a light about them that brings out the light in others. So, how do they do it?
As with many things in life, it can sometimes feel like you either have it or you don’t. In some cases this is true: if you grew to be 5’2, then it’s unlikely that you’ll know what it’s like to be 6’0 tall. However, if you’ve never had all eyes on you when you walk into a room, then you still have time to learn!
The key words here are: confidence. Walk. With. Confidence.
Interestingly enough, women tend to start slowly in their 20s and 30s in the confidence department. By the time they’re in their 50s and 60s, however, their confidence is at an all-time high - often surpassing even their male counterparts.
So, if you’re looking to boost your confidence, then these tips are a great place to start:
Practice your posture
The most impactful way to boost your confidence is to adjust your posture. Stand up straight with your head over your shoulders and your back nice and straight. Make eye contact with those around you instead of looking down. To master the posture, practice your cues daily and, if it helps, walk with a book balanced on top of your head to reinforce the feeling!
Supply your shoe closet
Dress. The. part. Nothing says confidence like an outfit that fits from head to toe! Comfortable, cute shoes are the key to setting off your perfect outfit. A website like Zappos is a great place to browse for the perfect pair of shoes for your big day. If you’re a larger-footed lady, then My Sole Sisters is a website made for you!
Every confident woman knows the importance of self-care. Finding your balance and relaxation outside of the daily grind will help you to recharge on a regular basis. Some women love a good mani/pedi, others take a long bath and others will curl up with a good book. For me, self-care presents itself as "me" time each weekend. This could be a long bubble bath, brunch with a friend or an evening curled up with a great book (right now, that's Michelle Obama's Becoming).
Whatever your “happy” place is, find time to be there on a weekly basis. It may seem trivial, but it will make a monumental difference in your energy, performance and overall confidence!
Act the part
One of the best pieces of advice that I’ve received is to “Act like you belong.” At its core, this means to walk with the confidence that you are allowed to be exactly where you are. When you walk into an important meeting, know that you deserve to be there. When you walk into a gala where you feel out of place, know that you earned your spot. When feel uncomfortable in any situation, know that you have just as much of a right to be there as every other person in the room. If you still lack confidence, then take note of why you feel uncomfortable and consciously work to improve it in the comings weeks and months.
No matter the occasion, these four ideas will help you walk with confidence into any room.
Do you have any no-fail tips that work to boost your confidence? Share them with us in the comments!